I’m finding out estrangement provides a big monetary gain to many therapists influencers coaches etc….that claim to know how to help. I’m wondering what the incentive is to remedy it? And what is the rate of successful long term reconciliations that these people claim to help
Thank you for clarifying. It's always good to be cautious and protect yourself from unscrupulous behavior (not to mention unqualified helpers) and I'm happy to assure you that the majority of my contributions are free for everyone to access, so they can assess potential value for themselves. I'm perfectly okay with you watching, reading, and listening to my content, without paying for it.
You'll find I offer quite a bit of free help for parents, in the form of my podcast (200+ episodes), two books you can borrow from the library, and posts like the one above.
Based on what they know of me, some parents do want more; for them I host the Reconnection Club and offer private consultation. That's how I make a living.
As a licensed mental health professional, helping people is not a hobby for me. It's why I got a masters degree in counseling psychology -- because that is the work that suits me best.
Based on feedback from satisfied parents since 2014, I have some idea of the value I provide to clients, when the fit is right. But I'm not for everyone, and that's okay too.
It's good that you're asking the questions you're asking. I think the remedy, ultimately, is for you to remain skeptical and evaluate carefully.
Share one example of when you have helped an estranged parent communicate with a NC child!
Just one!
What I see is a lot of psychobabble mostly putting the burden on parents so that they buy your books, pay for consultations, and subscribe to your Substack.
We want to see evidence that you know what you’re doing & get results.
If not, you’re simply another carpetbagger looking to monetize estranged parents’ pain.
I don't think anything I say about people I've helped will carry weight with you, Warrior Queen. I'm afraid you might have to assume I'm just another carpetbagger looking to monetize estranged parents' pain, and keep searching for someone with a good heart.
While I won't take personal credit for the reconnections of parents I've worked with (they did all the heavy lifting themselves), for what it's worth, I've collected some feedback on my Testimonials page. My work speaks to some but not to all. Please do keep looking for resources that feel helpful to you; everyone facing estrangement deserves support. https://tinagilbertson.substack.com/p/testimonials
Your podcasts are brilliant. Your club is a safe and healing place for parents to engage and benefit from your and members’ wisdom. Your resources and expert interviews are enlightening.
You have been of huge help to me over the past four years of estrangement from my adult child.
Zari, thank you so much for your lovely note. I'm very sorry to hear about your 4-year estrangement from your adult child but pleased to know you've found the Reconnection Club to be a safe space, supportive of your healing. I wish you reconnection on all levels, love and peace. ❤️
I've been listening to you for awhile now and appreciate your calm, steady voice that there are productive things I can do (like, working on myself) and unproductive things I can't do (like, forcing my adult child to talk to me again). Your message hasn't always been what I've wanted to hear, but I've found it to be true and helpful in the long run. Thank you for your three-step road map; it helps keep me balanced.
Thank you for your comment, Cayla, and for your honesty in saying not everything is what you want to hear. I can totally understand that. So much is easier said than done, isn't it? The Road Map is almost impossible to follow to the letter, I realize. It might just be pure human nature, for example, to want to start with Step 3 ... and only dabble in Step 2 ... and maybe ignore Step 1 entirely. But I have learned from estranged parents who succeed in reconnecting, that the steps work very well when followed in order -- as much as humanly possible. Thanks again for dropping in.
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I’m finding out estrangement provides a big monetary gain to many therapists influencers coaches etc….that claim to know how to help. I’m wondering what the incentive is to remedy it? And what is the rate of successful long term reconciliations that these people claim to help
Thank you for clarifying. It's always good to be cautious and protect yourself from unscrupulous behavior (not to mention unqualified helpers) and I'm happy to assure you that the majority of my contributions are free for everyone to access, so they can assess potential value for themselves. I'm perfectly okay with you watching, reading, and listening to my content, without paying for it.
You'll find I offer quite a bit of free help for parents, in the form of my podcast (200+ episodes), two books you can borrow from the library, and posts like the one above.
Based on what they know of me, some parents do want more; for them I host the Reconnection Club and offer private consultation. That's how I make a living.
As a licensed mental health professional, helping people is not a hobby for me. It's why I got a masters degree in counseling psychology -- because that is the work that suits me best.
Based on feedback from satisfied parents since 2014, I have some idea of the value I provide to clients, when the fit is right. But I'm not for everyone, and that's okay too.
It's good that you're asking the questions you're asking. I think the remedy, ultimately, is for you to remain skeptical and evaluate carefully.
Share one example of when you have helped an estranged parent communicate with a NC child!
Just one!
What I see is a lot of psychobabble mostly putting the burden on parents so that they buy your books, pay for consultations, and subscribe to your Substack.
We want to see evidence that you know what you’re doing & get results.
If not, you’re simply another carpetbagger looking to monetize estranged parents’ pain.
I don't think anything I say about people I've helped will carry weight with you, Warrior Queen. I'm afraid you might have to assume I'm just another carpetbagger looking to monetize estranged parents' pain, and keep searching for someone with a good heart.
It’s a reasonable attitude and you did not answer . Why?
Because they have no clue just give “advice.”
No I meant that q for Tina !
You don’t have any. Thank you!
While I won't take personal credit for the reconnections of parents I've worked with (they did all the heavy lifting themselves), for what it's worth, I've collected some feedback on my Testimonials page. My work speaks to some but not to all. Please do keep looking for resources that feel helpful to you; everyone facing estrangement deserves support. https://tinagilbertson.substack.com/p/testimonials
There’s always money involved somewhere
Hi Patricia. Can you elaborate?
Dear Tina,
Your podcasts are brilliant. Your club is a safe and healing place for parents to engage and benefit from your and members’ wisdom. Your resources and expert interviews are enlightening.
You have been of huge help to me over the past four years of estrangement from my adult child.
Thank you for your dedication.
It’s great to see you here in Substack
Zari, thank you so much for your lovely note. I'm very sorry to hear about your 4-year estrangement from your adult child but pleased to know you've found the Reconnection Club to be a safe space, supportive of your healing. I wish you reconnection on all levels, love and peace. ❤️
I've been listening to you for awhile now and appreciate your calm, steady voice that there are productive things I can do (like, working on myself) and unproductive things I can't do (like, forcing my adult child to talk to me again). Your message hasn't always been what I've wanted to hear, but I've found it to be true and helpful in the long run. Thank you for your three-step road map; it helps keep me balanced.
Thank you for your comment, Cayla, and for your honesty in saying not everything is what you want to hear. I can totally understand that. So much is easier said than done, isn't it? The Road Map is almost impossible to follow to the letter, I realize. It might just be pure human nature, for example, to want to start with Step 3 ... and only dabble in Step 2 ... and maybe ignore Step 1 entirely. But I have learned from estranged parents who succeed in reconnecting, that the steps work very well when followed in order -- as much as humanly possible. Thanks again for dropping in.